How do I build my communication skills? (Mu mora communication skill kipari build kari paribi?)
Student: mu mora ideas express kariba pai struggle karuchi, bele bele mora thought emit asuchi, jemti mu kichhi situation re nervous hoijauchi, confident low heijauchi. And sometimes mu chid chida bi feel kare. Ta mu mora verbal communication kipari develop kariparibi??
Teacher: First, eiya bujha ki amara verbal communication ra khyamata heuchi amara thought, jaha ra process clearly create kariba nihati jaruri. Eha writing madhyam re arambh heipariba.
Student: Writing?? Oh please mu writer nuhe, habaku bi interest hahi. Satare kana eita mora last work heba communication build kariba pai??
Teacher: Mo katha suna.
Manisha bhabare ama pakhare thiba writing skill heuchi sabutharu slow and best process. Ama madhyaru aneka jaldi katha hebaku motivate huanti. Verbal communication speed heithae kintu kicchi informative writing amaku time lagithae. Lekha kebe bi sehi speed re saman hoipariba nahi. Jetebele ame lekhu ama brain ta bhiatare thiba samasta thought madhyaru sabutharu important message ku hi choose karithae. Eha ama thought ra process ku control kariba pai, se thought ku build kariba pai, then se information sabuku filter kariki best information ta express kariba pai train karithae. Tenu, jetebele ame lekhu ame basically ama brain ku kahithau je ehi thought ta besi important, mu ehaku lekhibi.
Student: Oh, emit katha ki!! Eha true. Mote writing pai minimum kichi idea darker ki? Mu kebe lekhibi o kana lekhibi??
Teacher: Daily basis re writing practice rakhiba uchit. Minimum 1 page ru lekhiba start karantu kounasi topic choose kari lekhiba start karantu. Daily basis re lekhiba kebala lekhaka mananka pai nuhe, eha semanka pai, jeumane nijaku bhala bhabare express karibaku chahanti.
Student: How?
Teacher: Eha tumara thought ku collect karithae. Initially, jetebele ame writing start karanti amara thought re thiba information sabu ekathi heithae. Jadi kounasi topic ku focus kariki ame lekhiba tahale real ending re pahanchi pariba, nahela lekhare thiba saransa bujha paribani.
Just imagine apana kahuthiaba katha jadi eka valuable message ku refer karu na thae then se katha ra kounasi mahatwa na thae.
Student: Right!
Eha kebala etiki hoiparba nahi. Kebala lekhiba hi mote jane bhala communicator karipariba nahi.
Teacher: It is just a necessary step, but not one and only. Lekhiba pare next step hauchi taku kipari express kariba taha practice kariba. Lekhiba phalare tumara thought re concentration ase, kintu voice create kariba, communication pai darkar thiba feeling ra abhab ku bi dura karithae.
So, mu mora student mananku instruction dauchi je semane 90 days pai 1 min ra communication video record karantu. Ebon video ku again play karantu. Jeu sabu points re mistake hauchi, tara eka list banaa. Segudiku kipari rectify heipariba ebon ahuri bhala karipariba se bisayare bhaba. Next day again se mistake gudika upare kama karibaku padiba.
Student: Strange!
Eha eka kama pari sunajauchi, but mu like kare je eha daily kebala kichi kam time re heipariba. Eha kana really help kare??
Teacher: Tume daily basis re jaha bi kariba taha life re nischita help kariba.Mora jane student thile jie ki mora instruction ku realize karithile ebon gotie year pain daily 365 ti video record karithile. Epari feel kariba 1st video ru 365th video re thiba person nku apana chinhi paribe nahi. Only one year. Sara jibana re only 1 year tumara jibana ku change karideipare. Eha hi ehi practice ra beautiness.
Student: Mu gotie dina pare tanka bhali hebaku pasand karibi.
Teacher: Tume eha karipariba, kintu gotie dinare nuhe. Tume practice kariba time ra eiya identify kara ki tume keun speaker/motivational speaker nku adhika like kare, tanku adhika time re observe kara. Semankara video dekha. Semankara style ku follow kara. Semanku notice kara, jaha attractive laguchi se sabuku note kara. Epari kariba samayare nije realize kara semankara thought ebon message sahita kipari nijaku involve kariparibi, nija life re utilize kari paribi?
Student: Follow karibare kichhi problem nahi. Mu eha ku like kare. Mu aneka effective communicators nku notice karichi semane verbally nuhe baran atmabiswas ra bhabana Prakash karuchhanti.
Teacher: Ajira duniyare eha ahuri important. Amara adhikansa communication electronic media madhyamare heu thibaru, ame sabubele paraspara body language dekhiparibu nahi. Tenu amara language selection sahita body language important heithae. Ethire bhala hebara ekamatra trick heuchi reading. Tame jete padhiba, eha tamara word sabuku thik bhabare gathana karibare, sathik sentence use karibare ebon bhala bhabare spasta kahiabare sete adhika help kariba.
Student: So, reading and writing both Oral communication pai important and effective..
Teacher: Oh! Tume sabutharu toughest part re ebe bi pahanchi naha.
Student: Wait, sorry to interrupt, mu body language kouthu sikhiparibi?
Teacher: Communication ra sabuthu important heuchi listening.
Student: Sorry , what??
Teacher: Communication ra sabuthu hardest part heuchi listening. I think ebe tume Epari kichi karunaha kahiki na it is little difficult. Ame kebala answer debapai suni thau, bujhiba pai nuhe. And eha amaku impatience communication adaku neijae. Tume kicchi important katha kahila, kintu tumaku opposite re thiba person tara jaha answer deithila taha tume kahithiba kathara kaunasi relation nathila: epari situation re tumaku lagiba semane satare sunuthile na nahi??
Student: I know ki, jane kebala fluent english kahidele ki confident ra saha acting karidele effective communicator heipariba nahi, jaha saha communication heuthiba, se person ra thought ku bujhiba
sahit right response deba jaruri.
Teacher: Tume sampurna bhabare thik katha kahucha. Nija knowledge power, preparation power, practice power ku nasta kara nahi, ehaku bujha ebon thik direction re utilize kara.
Student: thank you.
Next time more discuss kariba.